- Walk like you own it
Lean your shoulders back against the wall as much as possible. Sit up straight all the time. In time, you’ll get used to it. Having good posture makes you look confident and feel good. Also, it gives health benefits.
Ensure that your face, skin and especially nails are clean. You don’t need monthly facial appointments if you do not have the time for it or if you can’t afford. Just remember to remove your make up before sleeping and wash your face thoroughly.
If your skin is dry, make it a habit to put on lotion before getting ready for bed.
Do your own mani & pedicure. Nail colors are not important. All you need is to trim, buff and remove the unsightly cuticles. It only takes 10 minutes of your time.
Prioritize your home too. Living in a clean environment is a good start. Hygiene plays a big role in your life.
Smell good everywhere! Deodorant is very important. Body odor is a big turn off. Feminine wash, spray and wipes, keep them handy. Fragrant lotion is more appropriate for night time use. You don’t wanna perspire and feel extra oily at the end of the day. Choose a proper, affordable perfume.
Tip: Rub the perfume behind your ears where you can feel your pulse. Anyone can smell you from a distance!
Having low self-esteem is very common. There is nothing wrong in taking negative remarks and disposing of them. Why care about other people’s thoughts when you have something better to think about? The best way to keep on keeping on is to smile and simply ignore. At the end of the day, you lose nothing but you sure do succeed in leaving that other person feeling insecure or maybe even guilty. I say, to hell with them.
Look at that girl staring back at you in the mirror and say, “You’re beautiful.” This has nothing to do with over-confidence. You’re telling yourself, not others.
Walk like you own it –
Take a deep breath, hold your posture, keep your chin parallel to the floor and start walking. You’d feel tall, confident and elegant instantly!
There was once I met a girl who had doubts about herself. No one could understand her, not even herself. Mirror was her biggest enemy. She’d question herself about all the flaws she had and would go through her photographs feeling nothing but hatred. Funny thing was, there wasn’t anyone to blame. Everyone who knew her, especially her family and friends were very supportive and never had given her any criticisms. But why? It was all in her head. She knew the only thing she could do was to upgrade herself step by step. She started going for eyebrow threadings, she bought her own set of cosmetics, she shopped for pretty clothes and went for her first facial treatment. No one had taught her anything at all. Soon after, she felt better about herself and her favorite compliment was, “You look good even without make up”. Her self esteem grew a little higher. Though, at times, she’d still feel pathetic. But, she learned that going through a transition in life is all it takes to help yourself feel better. You’re not doing it for anyone but yourself.
That girl was me.
When I say, “I love you,” it’s not because I want you or because I can’t have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I’ve seen your kindness and your strength. I’ve seen the best and worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You’re a hell of a woman. ~Joss Whedon